I've seen it alot in MSN and just about everywhere really. The sweetest words any couple can mutter utter recite regurgitate reiterate restate repeat release re.......ah u get me.......tell.
"iloveyouforever"
I mean no im not crucifying everyone who says this......but from my view.
IF i have a girlfriend (prayerfully hope so), and every single day every single hour every single Facebook second, she keeps telling me "iloveyouforever" or "iloveyou", honestly, i will get sick and bored and tired of it after a while. So you say i have no feelings, no love at all? You can try that, guarantee you will feel the same as me. Even just a "Hello" by someone........ever ur own classmate......u see him/her everyday, and u get the same greeting "Hello". Everyday. You will eventually think........"Cant this idoit say something else?" Or at least for once just a wave will do?
You and I are no different. We maybe different on a number of levels, but no different in essence. We were not created to be so mundane. And we are not called to be so romantic either. Today in church i heard the message preached by Pastor Jason , and this phrase stood out , : "Created for significance, called for obedience."
Yes saying "iloveyou" to your loved one is significant and partly being obedient. U want more significant maybe get an aeroplane and write it in the sky. Or text day after day after day for 30 days to mark your 1st monthniversary. But is it all there is to it? Well yes i know some couples get it there by now. And some go "Yea yea we know its not all that lovey dovey stuff"
So what is?
Buying presents? Expensive dinner treats? Simple walk in the park/beach alone together? Missing/thinking of him/her all the time? Constant communication? Well treated? Signifacant other things?
Its fair to say you cannot compare Godly love with parental love with relationship love with friendship love. None are at par level for sure. How do we express love in each of these areas?
Friends well, just being who you are and treating your friends, being there for them, support. care, etc. All this does keep friendship.
Relationships, well, more tricky. Certainly more effort. More attention. More care.
Parental. I can tell from my own family that parental love is pretty much undevided/unbroken tho sometimes it seems so.
Godly love. This is the only love i know which is inseperable once connected. No matter where you go, how far off planet you are, God still knows and sees whats up with you.
Now lets compare these 4 for a while. Friends dont say "iloveyou" everyday to each other. Parents do say "iloveyou" often to the kids but not always. And now how many of you tell God everyday every second "iloveyou"? Well even if you want to tell Him, He knows you are trying, but He also knows you need a break to do other things. All God see's is the heart and you dont really need to say it out a million times. But i see all the time couples make so much effort out of saying "iloveyou" in every possible way.form,shape,size,language,grammar,tense,vocab,phrase,conjunction,expression,etc......
If i were on the receiving end i might get a little fed up. Seriously does it have to be always? Well here is one flaw of the human being i have exposed : We HAVE a limit. As much u want to deny, we do. And one of those limits is tolerance. You can be VERY tolerant but still never 100% tolerant. Be VERY patient but not 100% patient. Bubbles gona burst the bigger you blow.
See it all makes sense doesnt it? You blow too much helium in a balloon (Hoping it will go sky high), but too much and it will burst if you dont know when to stop. You can keep pumping in lovely words, your partner may well burst one day. And that can be just the underlying tick off if so happen that day things go wrong.
Then all these words come out one by one "You say you love me always, everyday all the time? DO YOU REALLY MEAN IT?". "Yes of course la!! What nonsense you talking? ILOVEYOU!!". "No i dont think so! Say everyday, but sometimes, sometimes you ignore me. Nvr reply msg". "Haiyo those times i was busy la. But i really love you!!". "No la if you love me you will always reply and talk to me". "Hey dont talk so childish la ok?!". "You are the one childish la."
See? Its possible. And i dont doubt it has happened before. Saying too much of a good thing can backfire. It makes a room for doubt and a reference point to attack if left undefended/unjustified.
Sometimes we dont do things right. We are afterall imperfect beings. Yet if we try to be too perfect aka being smart, we can land ourselves in hot soup. If we put a facade or display something worth of perfection, the level of expectancy on the other partner can be very high and if there is a dip in the relationship, theres always something to blame.
Well hell, you may just really mean it, but in your defence you got one angry bull with an unstable head and probably he has a few points too. (No pun intended)
I mean yeah arguing is normal in couples. But it should not be an excuse to start one.
So in my conclusion (I dont know how well this post is coz its 4am in the morning now) the word "iloveyou" Should be sparringly used as if it were your only last few (well hundred la if you want) golden bullets. I mean tell the person you love when you really really mean it and he/she feels deserved to be told. Your not firing bullets to make holes in his/her heart. Your doing so to signal to him/her how much you care and appreciate.
I would end by saying, Love is not built on mere words or actions. Its built upon the foundations set by God. Yes God again why? Coz i just said, Gods love is the only love inseperable once connected. Build on that, and you build the right foundation.
The reason God wants us to love is because He is love, and He created us to be like Him – to love. The only reason we’re able to love is because God loves us: “Love comes from God … because God is love” (1 John 4:7-8 NIV).
If you cant really love God, you cant really love others. And if you cant learn to love God, you wont be able to experience and have love in youre heart. If you dont have love, you cant love others. If you cant love others, what is the point? If you have Gods love and you love God first then you will be able to love others exceedingly greater than you can. That is the point.
-End-
GBU
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